This is an awesome month for me. I am leaving the Country for a vacation. I have had lots of changes in my life and before the holidays start pouring in, I will take advantage of this time to get away and recharge my batteries. But while my batteries are recharging, I have a slew of clients who will be without my guidance for one month. That bothers me because I hold myself somewhat accountable for their fitness success. It also bothers me because I have heard , “what will I do without you?” several times from several people. I hope and pray they do well,” it’s only four weeks”, I say. I want to come back to a bunch of in shape clients, but somehow there is a little voice inside my head telling me if I vacation- so will my clients. I don’t want that to happen.
This brings me to the blog title-“Free will”… We all have free will, and no matter who thinks they hold you accountable- ultimately it is you who makes the decisions for yourself. Yes you can have a trainer you love and respect, but ultimately you will only tell them the answers you think they want to hear. Otherwise if you let them down too many times, you may feel like a failure, leading you to basically do what you can to avoid contact with that trainer again. No matter how much you loved them and what they did for you.
I understand this because over the years I have lost clients, not because I didn’t do a good job training them, but because they made choices that were opposite of working out and getting in shape and they hated the feelings they got facing me. It’s easier to avoid me. “Free Will”. I am not the work- out or nutrition police, though some consider that my title. I guess it makes them feel good. I don’t know why, but it’s like they want someone to judge them when they make poor choices regarding nutrition and fitness. I don’t like that title, but it is a part that I usually succumb to because it is in demand from some ( not all) clients.
So I am saying to you, especially while I am gone, If you must think of me every time you are faced with a tempting food product or the right to stay home instead of go to the gym, if that is what gets you going and making good decisions, then do it, I will understand, but really ultimately I want to help you and guide you to understand this exercise thing- although it sucks to have to do it when you really want to do other things , is good for you . Better you know now. I have had clients get frustrated when they hit a plateau, and for one reason or another they stop training with me, thinking it is doing no good, but what they don’t know is in a year of not doing anything they will look and feel terrible and regret that they ever stopped.
It’s all about your will. This month you are on your own. I know you can do it, heck you have been seeing me long enough to have some good habits in place. I know a month seems like an eternity but I will return. I look forward to seeing you again, but I really need this time away. I know it will be good for me. Let’s make it good for you also. Make good choices and let’s see if anything I taught you has stuck with you, if not, I will still enjoy seeing you when I return. And I will kick you butt!